Forgive and Forget [HBBC:2]

Welcome to The Half-Baked Bloggers Consortium's (HBBC) second post. Meet the members here.
This week's topic is Forgive and forget, chosen by Noor Al Zubaidy. Please take the time to view the members' blogs just as you viewed mine in order to get different perspectives about the same topic.

The Forgs
I don't know which comes first actually, do we forgive first then forget? or forget then forgive? Do you first remember the pain, feel the hatred and then remember that you'll never be able to forgive? Or you feel the hatred then remember the pain and know that you'll never forget?
Personally, for those past couple of weeks, miserable weeks if you ask me, I completely felt the bliss of having the capability to forget. And now that we're taking the forgetfulness part first, I got this question in mind: Have you ever wondered about the pain of those who always say the words "I never forget a face"? Have you ever thought that this is, at times, not a great thing to brag about? And that it's actually an obvious lie?
Sometimes the people who have the most beautiful faces, are the ones you really need to forget, are the ones you really need to know that your ability to never forget a face can turn into a curse, to fall upon you and haunt you in your dreams and turn their sweetness into ebony nightmares. Don't brag about not forgetting a thing; this is something Allah has granted us with. Forgetfulness is a true bliss.

If we take it linguistically, forgetting comes before forgiving, but if we take it emotionally, I guess you need to forgive that person for the certain emotions they evoked within you, or forgive the emotion itself for how it shifted everything good in your life into terribleness. And then comes the lame, yet true saying, it's about time we forget.
Okay, I hate cliches, but let's be real, if there was no God and there was no time, how will we actually forget?

Then comes lessons, if you forgive and forget, and also forget the lessons, you are a curse of your own kind, and a curse to your own poor self. The lessons come with the package, so if you lose them, know that your forgs have lost the uncommon letters and become one common word that does not even make sense.
You need to know how the process goes. Or else, forget about forgetfulness, and don't mind forgiveness.


6 comments:

Hea | September 9, 2011 at 9:39 PM

I think you need to forgive first in order to forget, but in practice if you actually were able to forgive then there is no need to forget. Peace is reached once you forgive, after that, the memories no longer make you sick or bring you pain. So you look back at it, and just smile I guess .. or maybe you'd want to forget as well ..

The hardest step however, is forgiving yourself .. This, might take so much effort that only you can give ..

Loved the post dear <3

Noor | September 10, 2011 at 12:36 AM

I love love love your reasoning. Forgetting is indeed a bless. I find that I'm not so fortunate. My memory clings to all sorts of things, happy, sad, painful, meaningless and I'm always surprised by how much I remember when everyone else seems so oblivious of the stuff that I remember. So I could definitely relate to everything you said about forgetting.

I think I can pat myself on the back for choosing this topic, you've talked about it so awesomely. Your perspective on this really makes one think about it seriously.
<3

Rux | September 11, 2011 at 8:19 AM

Sometime time heals the wounds, so you figure that it's about time you forgive. After all every one deserves a second chance.You think that if you forgive the forgetting part will come easily. But it seldom does.

Knee | September 11, 2011 at 2:06 PM

@Hea, I think it depends on the person, because people like Noor who have a strong memory should focus on forgetting first.
I do agree, forgiving yourself is one of the hardest things ever..
Thank you dear =)

@Noor Thanks sweetie =)I understand what you mean, I have a strong memory when it comes to numbers, it's really hard for me to forget a number even of a friend I need to forget. It's painful sometimes.

@Rux I agree, I do believe time is a great factor to heal anfd forget too many things.

Ammar | September 11, 2011 at 3:40 PM

i love how u called them the forgs :) time as Rux said will heal some of those scars and pixel those faces.

Yara Hani | September 14, 2011 at 11:46 PM

I think one can't forget something unless they forgive it. Afterall, how can you forgive something so painful unless it is no longer painful anymore..?! And true, sometimes, the inability to forget is actually a curse one shouldn't brag about =]. Nicely written and I love the ending.

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